June 2, 2009

Naturally Loved: Part Eight

My hair has really been coming along these past few weeks and I have started really experimenting with hair styles since I've noticed the additional length I've gained from Tender Loving Care. The wealth of information I have accumulated from my own research and other naturals sharing their own routines and "secrets" has been priceless, I am so grateful. The most powerful message I've gained from this evolving experience is "Do for self!" It is our journey and no one else's. No one has the exact same kink, coil or curl. That's what makes this experience so gratifying. We cannot rely on others to do it for us.
I have been approached by several people asking about my hair and I am always open to share information about products I use and styling routines. I do become hesitate to continue this exchange of information when a person may become reliant on me almost to the point where they want me to physically "do their hair." If a person wants to embrace their natural beauty than it is their journey, a sacred one at that. It should be enjoyed and cherished. This is a life changing experience that many of us were denied for various reasons, we have this opportunity and we need to make the most of it. A person denying themselves from this experience because someone they know who is already natural refuses to become an on-call hair stylist is an excuse. Personally, I love doing my own hair. It was forced upon me at twelve years of age because my mother literally hated doing hair even her own, she just doesn't like the routine of taking care of hair, the easier the better for her. She has worn variations of two hair styles for most of her life: roller sets combed out to give her that "flow" and the bun, that's it. This experience allowed me to get to know my hair and from a young age I have relied on myself, I bought tools and products and went to work.
This is a wider message that we can use in every aspect of our life "Do for self", it has served me well and by tuning into this message you will naturally be seen as the leader you are.

Happy Growing,


1 comment:

ChocolateOrchid said...

I totally agree with you! Even when people ask me what products I use, I'm a little hesitant to tell them. Not because I don't want them to know but I really feel you need to learn your on hair. Cause everything doesn't work for everybody. Going through the process of learning my hair is something that I cherish.